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Parenting---Roots and Wings 亲子---根和翅膀
By Kim Olver 金Olver
I’m sure many of you have heard that old Hallmark card adage that goes something like this: Parents give their children two great gifts---one is roots, the other is wings.我确信你们中许多人已经听到老标志卡的格言说是这样的：父母给子女两个伟大的礼物---一个是根，另一种是翅膀。 This is what I address in Read more...这是我地址了解更多信息...

parenting quotes: Raising kids is part joy and part guerilla warfare. 为人父母的报价：提高孩子们是快乐和游击战争的一部分。 - Ed Asner -埃德艾斯纳尔

Successful Parenting After Separation成功的父母在离职后

Successful Parenting After Separation成功的父母在离职后
By Jonathan Brown新浪布朗
Separation is a challenging time for many parents because it is an adjustment to a new way of life.分离是一项具有挑战性的时间，许多家长因为它是一个调整的一种新的生活方式。 There are both positive and negative factors to separation and the corresponding changes, but one of the issues that can arise is the differences that parents may have in the ways that they parent the children.有积极和消极的因素，分离和相应的变化，但问题之一是可能出现的分歧，父母可能的方式，他们父母的儿童。 The key point or focus that parents need to address is that they must put the best interests of the children first, and that their role is to continue to be the best possible parents to their children, even though they no longer live in the same home.关键的一点或集中，家长需要解决的是，他们必须把最大利益的儿童第一，而且他们的作用是要继续尽可能最好的家长他们的孩子，即使他们不再生活在同一家庭。

In order to put the interests of the children first parents that are separated need to consider the following issues, and determine how they can accomplish the goal of putting their kids first and provide love, safety and security for their children.为了使子女的利益第一的父母分隔的需要考虑下列问题，并确定它们如何才能完成的目标，把他们的孩子第一次和提供的爱，安全和保障他们的孩子。

Communication通信

Maintaining the lines of communication is critical to continue successfully维护通信线路是至关重要的继续成功 the children.儿童。 Many incorrect assumptions are made that the other parent is aware of scheduling changes, school events, outings or other issues affecting the child.许多不正确的假设是，其他家长意识到调度改变，学校事件，郊游或其他问题影响的儿童。 Often parents expect children to be the messengers between them, and this is a very difficult and emotionally harmful role for you child to have to play.往往是父母希望孩子成为它们之间的使者，这是一个非常困难和感情上的有害作用为您的孩子打比赛了。 Parents should discuss and determine a method that will allow them to continue to communicate about the children and to work together to make decisions in the best interests of the kids.家长应讨论和确定的方法，使它们能够继续沟通的儿童和共同努力，作出决定的最佳利益的孩子。 This communication may be done by fax, ...continued below/这种沟通，可以通过传真， ...继续低于/

/continued... email, voicemail, phone calls or /继续...电子邮件，语音邮件，电话或
face-to-face meetings, depending on the level of comfort or conflict.面对面的会议，根据等级的舒适或冲突。

Flexibility灵活性

No matter how carefully you plan or schedule your life there are always things that come up out of your control.无论你如何仔细计划或安排你的生活，总是有事情的时候，在你的控制。 As parents it is important to realize that this can happen for you, your ex-spouse and your children.作为父母重要的是要认识到，这可能会发生的你，你的前配偶和你的孩子。 Try to be as flexible as possible and allow the other parent and the children to have time together whenever possible.尝试将尽可能灵活，并允许其他家长和孩子们在一起的时间只要有可能。

Joint decision making联合决策

If you are able to communicate as coparents it is important to keep in mind that joint decision-making is usually in the best interests of the children.如果您能够沟通coparents重要的是要记住，共同决策通常是在最佳利益的孩子。 For difficult or major decisions it is helpful to get the other parent's input and opinion to prevent further conflict down the line.对于困难或重大决策是有益的获得其他家长的意见和见解，以防止进一步冲突的下跌线。 Most parents want to be a part of their children's lives even if they don't live in the same home as the children, and using a joint decision making process helps them stay connected to the children and helps to provide a sense of security for the children.大多数家长希望能参与孩子的生活，即使他们没有住在同一家庭的儿童，并使用一个联合决策过程中帮助他们保持联系的孩子，并帮助提供一种安全感的孩子们。

Stay positive about the other parent保持积极的其他家长

It is important to allow the children to have the most positive relationship that they possibly can with both of their parents.重要的是让孩子们最积极的关系，他们可能可以同他们的父母。 The more positive, respectful and civil that Mom and Dad can stay with each other the more comfortable, secure and stable the children will view their new lives.比较积极的，尊重和民间的爸爸妈妈可以留在对方的更舒适，安全和稳定的孩子们认为他们的新生活。 Children need to understand that separated parents are still Mom and Dad, and will still continue to be a part of their lives, even thought they live in different homes or even in different communities.孩子们需要认识到，父母失散仍爸爸妈妈，并仍将继续成为生活的一部分，甚至认为他们生活在不同的家庭，甚至在不同的社区。

Keep explanations to children as simple as possible, and avoid any negative comments about the other parent.请解释儿童尽可能简单，并避免任何负面评论的其他家长。 As separated parents stay flexible, communicate openly about the children and allow maximum contact between your children and the other parent.作为父母分开住宿灵活，公开沟通的儿童和允许的最高接触你的孩子和其他家长。
Jonathan Brown recommends Divorce Ontario for more information about successsful parenting after separation.乔纳森布朗建议离婚安大略省的更多信息successsful父母分离后。

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