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Mom vs. Dad: Navigating Parenting Differences With All Good Intentions 妈妈与爸爸：为人父母的分歧航行的一切良好愿望
By Dr. Charles Sophy 查尔斯博士索非
Let’s face it: raising children can be quite the adventure.让我们面对现实吧：养育子女可以相当的冒险。 Rewarding at one turn, challenging at the next – it’s the ultimate roller-coaster for the parenting thrill seeker.在一个奖励反过来，具有挑战性的在下次-它的终极过山车的父母激动求职者。 In the Game of Life, you Read more...在游戏中的生命，你了解更多信息...
Real Christian Parenting 真正的基督徒父母
By Chelsea Aubin 切尔西班
There are a few types of parenting, called Christian parenting that has caused a big debate.有几种类型的父母，养育子女所谓基督教造成了大辩论。 Some people actually link Christian parenting with child abuse.有些人实际上的联系与基督教父母虐待儿童。 This is not the case.这种情况并非如此。 In fact, many people Read more...事实上，许多人了解更多信息...
parenting quotes: My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it. 为人父母的报价：我的父亲没有告诉我如何生活;他住，让我看他这样做。 - Clarence Budinton Kelland -克拉伦斯Budinton兰德
Grace-full Parenting - Committing to Nurturing the Souls of our Children格雷斯充分亲子-团结的灵魂，培养我们的孩子
Grace-full Parenting - Committing to Nurturing the Souls of our Children格雷斯充分亲子-团结的灵魂，培养我们的孩子
By Lisa M. Hendey由莉萨米Hendey
Grace-full Parenting - Committing to Nurturing the Souls of our Children格雷斯充分亲子-团结的灵魂，培养我们的孩子
Author Interview with Thomas B. Haller, M.Div., MSW, DST, The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose作者访谈托马斯B哈勒先生股利。 ，城市生活垃圾， DST的， 10个承诺：父母与目的
By Lisa M. Hendey由莉萨米Hendey
Prior to the birth of our children, mothers frequently pass the days of our pregnancies studying "what to expect" books and manuals, pondering each passing phase and development.之前出生的儿童，母亲经常通过两天的学习我们的怀孕“什么期望”的书籍和手册，每过思考阶段和发展。 However, many new parents find themselves swamped once the child arrives, and然而，许多新的家长发现自己淹没，一旦孩子到达，并 manuals frequently gather dust on the bookshelves as well intentioned moms and dads struggle just to keep everyone fed, clothed and relatively clean.手册经常收集粉尘的书架，以及用意和爸爸妈妈的斗争只是为了让大家有饭吃，衣服和相对干净的。 By the time our children reach school age, most of us are so busy driving them to their various activities that we take little time for的时候，我们的孩子达到入学年龄，我们大多数人来说是如此繁忙的驾驶到他们的各种活动，我们应采取什么时间 enrichment.活动。
One new resource for parents, the latest book by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller, The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose (Personal Power Press, December 2004, hardcover, 157 pages), is well worth the time of any parent.一个新的资源，家长，最新的书雏鸡摩尔曼和托马斯哈勒， 10个承诺：父母与目的（个人电力出版社， 2004年12月，精装， 157页） ，是值得的时候父母任何一方。 In this book, the authors challenge parents to adopt a new approach - "grace-full" parenting.在这本书中，作者挑战父母采取一种新的方法- “宽限期满的”养育子女。 Using real-life examples and practical ideas, the book lays forth ten commitments every parent should make towards putting the role of parent and the family unit at the top of one's priority list.用现实生活中的例子和实际的想法，这本书奠定了十项承诺每位家长应把实现中的作用，父母和家庭单元顶部的一个优先名单。 Regardless of the age or number of children in your family, the book is a sound and inspiring primer and a reminder of the importance of truly engaging in our job and blessing as parents.无论年龄或子女人数在您的家庭，这本书是一个健全的和鼓舞人心的引物和提醒的重要性真正从事我们的工作和祝福的父母。
I am pleased to share the following conversation with author Thomas Haller on committing to "grace-full" parenting.我很高兴地分享以下谈话作者托马斯哈勒的承诺“宽限期满的”养育子女。
Q: Thanks so much for your time and participation in this interview, and for your book The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose.问：非常感谢您的时间和参与这次采访，并为您的书籍的10项承诺：父母与目的。 Could you please share with our readers why you and Chick Moorman decided to come together in partnership to write this book and what your goal is for the book?可否请你分享我们的读者你为什么要和鸡摩尔曼决定走到一起的伙伴关系，以写这本书和您的目标是为这本书？
A: As a Pastor and a licensed couples and family therapist I joined forces with Chick, an educator with over 40 years of teaching experience, to inspire and encourage Christian parents to raise responsible, caring, confident children with gentleness and love.答：作为一个牧师和一个持牌夫妻和家庭治疗，我加入鸡力量，与教育工作者40多年的教学经验，以激励和鼓舞基督教以提高家长负责，关怀，相信儿童的温柔和爱。
Our goal is to challenge parents to examine the strategies they are using and how they are choosing to be as a parent.我们的目标是挑战父母的战略研究，他们使用的是和他们是如何选择将作为母公司。 No parent wants to reduce their child's self-esteem or leave their child feeling as if they are a no good, worthless person, yet many of the strategies that parents are being taught today are about parental power, control, and end up fixing blame and creating shame.没有家长希望减少他们的孩子的自尊或离开他们的孩子的感觉，好象他们是没有好，毫无价值的人，但许多的战略，父母正在教今天的亲权，控制，并最终确定责任和创造耻辱。 We are encouraging parents to change the face of我们鼓励家长的面貌 and we offer a way to do just that.我们提供了一个办法做到这一点。
Q: Please briefly discuss the basic focus of the book, to assist parents with the goal of committing to the job of parenting.问：请简要地讨论了基本的重点图书，帮助父母的目标承诺的工作养育。
A: All the other A ：所有的其他 books are about what you should do; The 10 Commitments is about how you should be.本书是什么你应该做的;的10项承诺是如何你应该。 Your beingness is as crucial as your doingness.您beingness是关键，因为你doingness 。 Think about this, the more you nurture your child's spirit as you parent them, the more you are able to let your child parent themselves.想想这一点，你越是培育您的孩子的精神正如你父母他们，你越是能够让你的孩子父母本身。
Q: How did you determine which ten commitments were the most important and is there one commitment that underpins the ten as the most significant?问：你是如何确定哪些十项承诺是最重要的是有一个承诺，巩固了10个作为最重要的？
A: Each commitment is crucial to the role of答：每一个承诺，是至关重要的作用 and can stand alone as an effective piece in a可以单独作为一个有效的作品中 repertoire.曲目。 The 10 commitments literally embodies all that it means to be a parent, much like the 10 commandments embodies all that it means to be a child of God. 10项承诺实际上体现了所有的手段，它是一个母公司，就像10诫命体现了所有的手段，它是一个上帝的孩子。 No one commitment is more important that another.任何人承诺，更重要的是，另一个。 Some parents have found one particular commitment to be more important to their family while other parents find a different commitment to be key for them.有些家长发现一个特别的承诺是更重要的是他们的家庭，而其他的父母找到一个不同的承诺，为他们的关键。
Q: For parents of adolescents, is it too late to commit to effective parenting?问：对于父母的青少年，是为时已晚致力于有效的父母？
A: It is never too late to make a commitment to raising responsible children.答：这是永远不会太迟作出承诺，提高儿童负责。 The techniques and strategies presented in the 10 commitments are effective at any age, no matter when you start.在技术和战略中提出的10项承诺是有效的在任何年龄，无论当您启动。 The key is that you start.关键是你的开端。
Q: What role does faith play in effective parenting?问：什么作用的信念发挥有效的父母？ How can parents work to pass along their faith and values to their children?如何才能父母的工作转嫁给他们的信念和价值观，他们的孩子？
A: Each one of us has been ...continued below/答：我们每个人已...继续低于/
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/continued... called by God to nurture the soul of our child. /继续...所谓的上帝培育的灵魂，是我们的孩子。 This is a calling of the highest order.这是一个要求最高的秩序。 Your calling is sacred.您的要求是神圣的。 You are the soul model who has been entrusted with the sacred art of你是谁的灵魂模型被赋予的神圣的艺术 with grace, gentleness, and love.与优雅，温柔，和爱。 Great parents are great because their children respect them and not because their children fear them.伟大的父母都是伟大的，因为他们的子女尊重他们，而不是因为他们的孩子担心他们。 God does not call the qualified, He qualifies the called.上帝并不需要合格的，符合他的要求。 Your faith enables you to hear the call and to respond.你们的信仰，您可以听到呼叫和回应。 Your children learn about this faith as they see you live out your calling.你的孩子了解这个信念因为他们看到你住你的要求。
Q: Please discuss the concept of helping children to develop and live by their own "inner authority".问：请讨论的概念，帮助儿童发展和生活的自己的“内心的权力” 。
A: Children manage their own behavior from the inside out.答：儿童管理自己的行为从内向外。 We call this an inner authority.我们呼吁这是一个内在的权威。 You no longer have to be the one who is in control of your child; you are not in charge of him.你不再是一个谁在控制你的孩子;你不负责了。 Your child is in control of himself, he is in control of his choices and the outcomes of those choices.您的孩子在控制自己，他是在控制他的选择和成果的人的选择。 Our commitment is to help our children develop this inner authority.我们的承诺是帮助我们的儿童发展这种内在的权威。 It is this inner authority that we take with us wherever we go.正是这种内在的权力，我们采取与我们只要我们去。 How to teach children to listen to their inner authority and respond to it, is the focus of the seventh commitment.如何教孩子倾听他们内心的权威和作出反应，重点是第七届承诺。
Q: How can a parent with a troubled child transition from "fixing blame" to searching for and implementing solutions?问：如何才能与父母陷入困境的儿童过渡到“确定责任” ，以寻找并实施解决方案？
A: Committing to searching for solutions means that you commit to focusing on the process of helping your children learn how to solve their problems rather than relying on punishment to teach the lesson.答：承诺，以寻求解决办法意味着你承诺将重点放在过程中帮助你的孩子学会如何解决自己的问题，而不是依赖于惩罚教课。 You create an atmosphere where your child sees you as joining them in combating the problem.你创造气氛，你的孩子在那里看到你加入他们对付这个问题。 You are on the same side with your child fixing the problem.你是在同一侧与您的孩子解决了这个问题。 You invest time in solution seeking rather then telling your child what to do.你投资在寻求解决办法，而不是告诉你的孩子做些什么。 You believe in teaching a desired behavior rather than creating discipline around undesired behaviors.您认为在教学中理想的行为，而不是建立在纪律的不良行为。 You help your children see themselves as solution-seeking individuals in their own right.你能帮你的孩子认为自己的解决方案寻求个人在自己的权利。
Q: You discuss the importance of seeing our children as teachers.问：你讨论的重要性，看到我们的孩子的教师。 What are some of the lessons you've learned from your own children?有哪些经验教训教训你从自己的孩子吗？
A: I have two boys ages 8 and 5.答：我有两个男孩8岁和5 。 They teach me many lessons every day.他们教给我许多经验教训每一天。 They continually challenge me to see the spirit and soul of all of God's creatures.他们不断挑战我看到的精神和灵魂，是所有神的动物。 A few years ago while visiting a horse show my youngest son asked, "Dad, what happens to the horses when they get old and the people are done riding them?"几年前，在前往马显示我的最小的儿子问： “爸爸，会发生什么的马当他们变老和人民都是骑马吗？ ” His question and the discussion that followed led me and my wife to build a horse rescue and retirement ranch.他的问题和随后的讨论中导致我和我的妻子，建立一个马救援和退休的牧场。 Chick joined us in this endeavor and now one dollar from every 10 Commitments book sold goes to Healing Acres Equine Retirement Ranch.鸡加入我们的这一努力，现在一美元由每10个出售的承诺书去马愈合英亩牧场退休。 This began with a concern for the spirit of horses from a three year old.这首先关注的精神，马匹从3岁。
Q: What are some practical, tangible steps parents can take to create "family oneness"?问：什么是一些实际的，切实的步骤家长可以采取建立“家庭一体” ？ Is it possible to maintain this unity as children age and become increasingly independent?是否有可能保持这种团结作为儿童的年龄和越来越多的独立？
A: Are you creating the "OUR family" feeling or the "MY family" feeling with your答：你创造了“我们的家庭”的感觉，或“我的家人”的感觉与您 techniques?技术？ Do you more often use the words I/me/my or us/we/our?你更经常使用的话的I /我/我或我们/我们/我们的？ Do you attempt to create a shared control style of family management, or do you run the show with little input from other family members?你试图建立一个共同控制的家庭式管理，还是运行表明几乎没有投入，其他家庭成员？ Do you include strategies to build unity on your "to do" list, or do you leave that important issue to chance?你是否包括战略，建立统一的“做”名单，还是你离开这个重要问题的机会？
Do you model closeness and affection for your children?你亲近模型和爱戴你的孩子？ Are you actively working to preserve the traditions of your family?你积极工作，以维护传统的家庭？ Have you created a family tree?你创造了一个家谱？ Do you have a nostalgia corner in your home?你有怀旧角落，在您的家？ Are there favorite family stories that get retold frequently?有最喜爱的家庭故事，让新编频繁？ Do you look for opportunity to add to the folklore that is part of your family history?你寻找机会，增加了民俗的一部分，你的家庭历史？
Do you invest time in creating and observing rituals that you family can look forward to with anticipation?你投入时间在建立和遵守礼仪，你的家庭可以期待与期待？ Will you create memories to pass on to future generations by establishing a ritual that recognizes special events or shared family values?将您创建的记忆传给子孙后代建立一个仪式，确认特别活动或分担家庭的价值观？
Do you see your family as a priority, or do you strive to succeed at work first?你看你的家庭作为一项优先工作，或做你努力在工作中取得成功吗？ Do you place family first?你第一次发生家庭？
Every family is unique and will change and grow over time.每一个家庭都是独特的，将改变和随着时间的推移与日俱增。 You can strengthen family unity and help your children sink roots whether they are six or sixteen.您可以加强家庭的团结，并帮助您的孩子下沉基层不管他们是6年或16 。 The commitment to family stays the same the implementation of that commitment changes as a child's independence grows.致力于家庭保持相同的执行这一承诺改变一个孩子的独立成长。 See their growth as adding new tradition and memories to the family.看到他们的成长增加了新的传统和记忆的家庭。 Encourage them to bring to the family their new sense of the world around them and embrace their growth.鼓励他们把家庭的新感觉他们周围的世界，拥抱他们的成长。
Q: Are there any closing thoughts you'd like to share?问：是否有任何想法闭幕您想分享？
If you have only 2 books on your self, you want one of them to be The Bible and the one right next to it to be the Bible of parenting, The 10 Commitments Parenting with Purpose, because if you want to do graceful如果您有只有2本书上的自我，你想其中之一是圣经和一旁边这是圣经的父母，在10项承诺父母与目的，因为如果你想做的事优美 and become a soul model for your children, then you need to follow The 10 Commandments and The 10 Commitments.并成为灵魂模型，你的孩子，那么你必须遵循的10戒律和10项承诺。
For more information on the work of Thomas Haller visit www.thomashaller.com and欲了解更多信息的工作访问托马斯哈勒和www.thomashaller.com
www.healingacres.com. www.healingacres.com 。
For more information on The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose visit http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0961604670/catholicmomcom欲了解更多有关的10项承诺：父母与目的的访问http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0961604670/catholicmomcom
Lisa M. Hendey, wife, mother and webmaster of http://www.CatholicMom.com and http://www.ChristianColoring.com is an avid reader and writes from Fresno, California.丽莎先生Hendey ，妻子，母亲和管理员http://www.CatholicMom.com和http://www.ChristianColoring.com是一个书迷，并写入来自加利福尼亚州的弗雷斯诺。 Visit her at http://www.lisahendey.com for more information.她在访问http://www.lisahendey.com以获取更多信息。
Lisa M. Hendey, wife, mother and webmaster of www.CatholicMom.com and www.ChristianColoring.com is an avid reader and writes from Fresno, California.丽莎先生Hendey ，妻子，母亲和管理员www.CatholicMom.com和www.ChristianColoring.com是一个书迷，并写入来自加利福尼亚州的弗雷斯诺。 Visit her at www.lisahendey.com for more information.她在访问www.lisahendey.com以获取更多信息。
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