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Healthy Parenting: 5 Ways Parents Can Help Children Lead Healthy Lives 为人父母的健康： 5种方法家长可以帮助孩子们健康生活
By Vicki Rackner MD 由维基Rackner博士
Believe it or not, you impart a legacy of health to your children that goes well beyond the genes you give them.信不信由你，你传授遗留下来的健康，您的孩子远远超出你的基因给他们。 You also pass along health beliefs and model health-related choices.您还传递健康信念和示范与健康有关的选择。 Here are 5 tips Read more...这里有5个窍门了解更多信息...
Mom vs. Dad: Navigating Parenting Differences With All Good Intentions 妈妈与爸爸：为人父母的分歧航行的一切良好愿望
By Dr. Charles Sophy 查尔斯博士索非
Let’s face it: raising children can be quite the adventure.让我们面对现实吧：养育子女可以相当的冒险。 Rewarding at one turn, challenging at the next – it’s the ultimate roller-coaster for the parenting thrill seeker.在一个奖励反过来，具有挑战性的在下次-它的终极过山车的父母激动求职者。 In the Game of Life, you Read more...在游戏中的生命，你了解更多信息...
parenting quotes: I talk and talk and talk, and I haven't taught people in 50 years what my father taught by example in one week. 为人父母的报价：我通话和通话和交谈，我已经不教人在50年是我所教的父亲例如，在一个星期。 - Mario Cuomo -马里奥郭默
Parenting 20-Something Kids...Still?为人父母20岁左右的孩子...不过？
Parenting 20-Something Kids...Still?为人父母20岁左右的孩子...不过？
By Martha Pope Gorris由玛莎教皇Gorris
PARENTING 20-SOMETHING KIDS..STILL?为人父母的儿童.. 20-SOMETHING静止？
So what's with那么同 20-something kids? 20多岁的孩子？ Aren't we through with our难道我们通过与我们的 duties by then?职责呢？ Most young adults in their twenties are in college, in the military or working somewhere.最年轻的成年人在20是在大学，在军事或工作的地方。 Our job as parents is pretty much over, isn't it?我们的工作作为父母是非常多，是不是？
Many people think it is, but the truth remains, we are still mom and dad, still employed with a job to do.许多人认为它是，但事实仍然是，我们仍然在妈妈和爸爸，仍受雇于的工作要做。 The time between teen-age and adulthood are transition years for them, as well as for us.之间的时间青少年和成年的过渡期为他们，以及为我们。 The biggest change is in the way we parent.最大的变化是在我们的父母。 What we used to do as parents of teen-agers no longer works for parents of young adults.我们用来做父母的青少年的作品不再为父母的年轻人。 Our communication, the way we relate and speak, the ways we love, even how much we give must be adjusted.我们的沟通，我们的方式与说话的方式，我们的爱，甚至有多少我们给必须加以调整。
No longer can we give unsolicited advice and expect a positive response.再也不能让我们不请自来的意见和期望积极的回应。 No "Ok Johnny, go get your hair cut, buy a new suit, and then send in your resume to this company."没有“好强，请你剪头发，买新衣服，然后发送您的简历中，以这家公司。 ” All those things may need to be done, but our methods of blatantly giving advice and instructing are no longer effective with a grown person.所有这些事情可能需要许多工作要做，但我们的方法，明目张胆地提供咨询和指导不再有效，以增加人。 Our style of communication needs to shift.我们的沟通方式需要转变。 How?怎么会呢？ We can gently ask questions like, "Son, what are you going to do next in your job search?"我们可以轻轻地发问一样， “儿子，你会怎样做明年在您的求职？ ” Or, you might say, "I think your idea to buy a new suit is a good one. If you'd like me to go along, let me know."或者，您可能会说， “我想您的想法购买一台新的诉讼就是一个很好的一个。如果您想要我去一起，让我知道。 ” Suggesting and affirming are much more effective methods than a straight out "here's how to do it."建议，并确认是更为有效的方法比直接去“这里该怎样做。 ”
What about the kid who decides college isn't for him after all the years of preparation?怎么样的孩子谁决定大学不是他毕竟几年的准备？ After all your planning and saving?毕竟你的规划和节约？ Instead, he wants to travel around the country or the world to "find" himself.相反，他希望前往全国各地或世界的“发现”自己。 Or, what if your daughter wants to get married right after high school graduation and your hopes for her are dashed?或者，如果你的女儿要结婚后，高中毕业，您的希望彻底落空了她？ Many parents find themselves frustrated, disappointed and often angry.许多家长发现自己沮丧，失望，并常常生气。 This wasn't what they had in mind!这不是他们所铭记！ What should we do with that disappointment?我们应如何与失望？
The first thing not to do is take it out on our adult kids.的第一件事，不这样做是考虑它在我们成年的孩子。 It's time, Mom and Dad, to acknowledge that our hopes and dreams may not be theirs.它的时候，爸爸妈妈，认识到，我们的希望和梦想可能不是他们。 Our hopes and expectations are just that-ours.我们的希望和期望只是说，我们的。
The key question to ask during the transition years ...continued below/关键的问题，要求在过渡期间继续来...下面/
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/continued... of the early 20's is this: "Will these words or this action promote a healthier relationship with my adult child? If we ask that question honestly whenever we are in doubt, I think we will learn which way to act. /继续...早期20的是这样的： “这些字会这一行动或促进健康的关系与我的成年子女？如果我们问这个问题的时候，我们真的是在毫无疑问，我认为我们将学习何种方式采取行动。
During the teens, we helped our kids a lot.在十几岁，我们帮助我们的孩子很多。 They depended on us for everything still.他们依赖于我们的一切依然。 No longer should life be a free ride.不再生活应该是一个自由的旅程。 Part of becoming a responsible citizen is learning to accept personal obligations and have respect for other, especially for their parents.部分成为一个负责任的公民是学习接受个人的义务，并尊重其他，尤其是他们的父母。 Say no, giving less is part of that process.说不行，少是这一进程的一部分。
Some parents acknowledge saying "no" to their kids is tough.一些家长承认说“不” ，他们的孩子是艰难的。 How do you all of a sudden start saying, "no, you can't borrow the RV or the boat" or "no, I cannot baby-sit again this weekend?"你怎么突然开始说： “没有，你不能借房车或船”或“不，我不能照看本周末再次？ ” It's simple.这很简单。 An honest explanation is all that is needed.一个诚实的解释是一切必要。 "We are planning to keep this RV as our retirement getaway and we are limiting its use so that it isn't worn out in three years." “我们正计划把这个病毒作为我们退休度假，我们限制其使用，因此，这不是穿了三年。 ” Or, "I'm sorry I can't sit this weekend. We made plans to have friends visit for the weekend."或“对不起，我不能坐视这个周末。我们计划在朋友的访问，为周末。 ” It's all in the way we say no.这就是我们说不。 It has been suggested that when we say no to a request to borrow money, that we try and do something else to show we care.有人认为，当我们说没有请求借钱，我们尝试做些别的事情，以显示我们照顾。 For example, you might invite your child and spouse to dinner and movie on you.例如，您可以邀请您的孩子和配偶吃饭和电影在你们身上。 Or you take them for ice cream, something to show you are there for them, you are just not going to bail them out.或者你认为这些是冰淇淋，东西向您展示有他们，你只是不想保释他们。
What do we do if husband and wife disagree about an issue regarding our young adult?我们该做什么，如果丈夫和妻子不同意的问题对我们的年轻成年人？ It's important for us to keep a united front.这是我们必须保持统一战线。 Tell your child that you will get back to them after you have discussed it with your spouse.告诉你的孩子，你将回来后，他们讨论你与你的配偶。 When discussing it, if we can't agree together, then we should bow out.当讨论这个问题，如果我们不能同意共同努力，那么我们就应该退出。 If compromise isn't coming, then agree not to go one way or the other.如果不妥协的未来，然后同意不会去这种或那种方式。 Don't admit to your child you don't agree.不要承认你的孩子你不同意。 Simply say you will have to decline to help.简单地说你将有下降的帮助。
It's vital for our adult kids to see us as parents happy together, working on our relationship, building, looking to our future retirement.这对于我们成人的孩子看到我们作为家长乐意在一起，对我们的工作关系，建设，希望我们今后的退休生活。 The fact that we "have a life" is an important example for them.事实是，我们“有生命”是一个重要的榜样，他们。 Even if you are a single parent, our kids need to observe us and how we handle the storms of life.即使你是一个单亲家庭，我们的孩子必须遵守我们和我们如何处理风暴的生活。 We are still role models, and our actions still teach and make an impression on our kids, even if they are grown up.我们仍然榜样，和我们的行动仍在传授和令人印象深刻的我们的孩子，即使他们长大了。
So parents, if you have 20-something young adults, get rid of the idea that your因此，家长，如果您有20岁左右的年轻人，摆脱的想法，您的 job is done.任务完成。 You're not off the hook, not yet.你不是摆脱困境，还没有。 Remember we're merely in a transitional phase.请记住我们只是在一个过渡阶段。 The day is coming when they will be completely independent, responsible and personally accountable for their lives.这一天即将到来，他们将完全独立的，负责任的，并亲自负责他们的生活。 And when that day comes, if we've done our job well, we can enjoy the satisfaction of a deep and lasting mutual friendship with our child-a worthy goal indeed.而当这一天到来，如果我们所做的出色工作，我们可以享受满意的深刻和持久的彼此间的友谊与我们的孩子一个值得追求的目标确实。
Does your young adult child seem distant? Does he/she call less often? Seem sharp or hostile when you give advice?贵年轻的成年子女似乎遥远吗？他/她呼吁少？楤尖锐或敌对当您提供意见？ Then it's time to read this new book: Parenting 20-Something Kids: Recognizing Your Role As They Find Their Way Martha Pope Gorris is a freelance writer, author and speaker.那么现在正是时候阅读本新著：父母20岁左右的孩子：认识你的作用，他们找到出路玛莎教皇Gorris是一个自由作家，作者和演讲者。 Her latest book, Parenting 20-Something Kids is available in bookstores, or for an autographed copy, go to her site: www.MarthaPopeGorris.com她的最新著作，父母20岁左右的孩子们可在书店，或为一个亲笔签名的副本，去她的网站： www.MarthaPopeGorris.com
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